Don’t worry about what other kids say.

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Hey Mommas, future Mommas, and soon to be Mommas.

Last week, Rob was picking up Averie from daycare. While I was at work, he called me to let me know something happened. So I panicked a little but kept it cool and asked calmly, “What happened”? He begins to tell me that, when picking up Averie from school he noticed that she looked upset in the playground area. She walked across from him at the water fountain station and began to cry. He asked her what happened?

Backstory

Early that day we got a notification on Class Dojo (If you don’t know, its an app where parents and teachers can communicate) that Averie was the only child to pass the state exam for VPK with a perfect score.

So Rob asked her one more time, “What is wrong Averie?” She now begins to cry and then ugly cry. (You know when the boogers just come out- that’s when you know whatever was bothering really affected her) She begins to tell him while taking deep breaths, “The twins… called me… a DUMB IDIOT!” Begins to cry softly.

As they get into the car, they called me. I could hear Averie weeping quietly and I asked her version of the story. It’s exactly the same. But I wanted to reassure her that I heard it from her mouth not Daddy’s. Deep down inside I was crushed while listening to her tell me the story. How did this just happened? She must’ve asked the twins how they did in their exam. Because that’s who Averie is, she likes to help and loves to learn from others and they crushed it for her. This idea was just running in my head. How do I explain to my child that what others say should not be taken to the heart.

So I calmly tell her, “Averie, sometimes kids will be mean because they do not know how to express themselves. They can be frustrated and the words they choose come out rude. They may not be thinking at that moment. And yes, words can hurt. But remember that in the end of the day, the only people that matter are…. FAMILY. We don’t see you as a dumb idiot. Your are wonderful, beautiful and smart. You are beyond your years. Don’t let her bring you down. Hold your head up! I will see you soon after I get out from work.”

As I told her those words, I tried to hold my own tears and be strong for her. Because this was my first time that I wasn’t there to help her.

When I got home, the first thing I did was to go lay in bed with her. I asked her how she was feeling and she told me better. But in the back of my mind, I knew I had to write her a little note for school as I do everyday. But this time I wanted to tell her how special she truly is to me.

At 6 AM I wrote: Don’t worry about what other kids say. You are smart, beautiful, nice and FABU-LOUS! (Inside joke: she likes to mimic Lamb Lamb from Doc Mcstuffins) Hold your head high. YOU ARE A QUEEN! And ONLY YOU wears the crown! – Love Mom *Excuse my butchering of words, 6 AM and still half asleep*

You are also wondering, does she even read this note? And the answer to that is YES. The teacher sees her reading each note everyday. She has mentioned that is the first time she sees a little girl at her age reading and hugging the note from us. I think it’s a great inspirational note half way through her day.

So with that said, nobody tells you that parenting is easy. It’s a hard job and I wish I could protect her always. But I know she will learn and grow from this experience. With tougher skin.

-The Mominista

Golden Globes 2019

Hello,

Fellow moministas, future mominitas, and fashion lovers. Hope you are all doing well. So, a week a go was the Golden Globes.

Backstory:
Let me tell you a little funny story, my television reminds me when important events like this will air. That Sunday morning, I was in Averie and Arya’s room as usual putting TV on for them. The TV then reminded me about the Golden Globes for 8pm, I hit the DVR to record. At 12:05 am on Sunday going into Monday (details are so important, right) I decided to watch it. The girls are in their room, should be sleeping. But now that I think about it… maybe they weren’t.

Any who, I go to check the DVR. Nervous fear set in me. “Did I really record it? I had to. No worries, remain positive. It’s January. New year, new me.” This is what I said on my mind as I turned on the TV. Haha, jokes on me because guess what wasn’t on the list? THE GOLDEN GLOBES! I thought I hit record, I must’ve pressed, no, thanks. I go and check my backup, the guide. Playstation Vue, let’s me watch things from the beginning after a show has ended. “I should be fine”, I said to myself. That’s when I hit to start and it’s unavailable. Great.

So after a week of looking everywhere, asking friends if they had recorded the show to only come empty handed. I can say, I have finally watched it. And at this moment you may ask, “Ady, why didn’t you just watch the carpet, or highlights from the night to find your fashion?” Well, my fashion enthusiasts, I like to watch it all. I was rooting for Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper for, A Star is Born not to mention the entire cast that was nominated for Gianni Versace, American Crime Story and let’s not forget, Queen! I live for the fashion and awards.

Here are my picks for Best Dressed at the Golden Globes:

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SANDRA OH

In Versace

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EMMY ROSSUM

In Monique Lhuillier

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CATHERINE ZETA-JONES

In Elie Saab

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LADY GAGA

In Valentino

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EMILY BLUNT

In Alexander McQueen

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GEMMA CHAN

In Valentino Haute Couture

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MOLLY SIMS

In Marchesa

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REGINA KING

In Alberta Ferretti

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TAYLOR SWIFT

In Versace

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CAMILLA BELLE

In Jason Wu

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GIULIANA RANCIC

In Gucci

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The trend of the night was:

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Cutest Couple were:

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BRADLEY COOPER & IRINA SHAYK

 

 

 

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Taking it Back – The Girls

As a mother, have you ever just watched your kids and just studied their facial features? Yes, it may sound creepy. But I tend to look at how they have aged, in amazement. On this particular day it was just about that. I was in love watching the girls play with blocks. Then, I took the camera and took advantage in capturing their face expressions. They have plenty, just look for yourself.

-The Mominista

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October Recap: Halloween

This Halloween, Rob and I decided to dress up the girls as much as possible. After all, a little Hocus Pocus never hurt nobody.

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The morning of Halloween, I asked Averie, “What would you like to dress up today?” and she replied, “A fairy, mommy.”

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So I got some items from her closet and wa-la…. Fairy Averie.

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When I came back home, I wanted them to relax and unwind before trick o treating. Perfect moment for another chance to dress them up.

Averie was Princess Belle

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and Arya was Tinkerbell

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Did you see what I did there?  Belle & Tinker-bell. The bells. I just noticed that. lol

We had them dancing to Halloween songs, just to get them in the mood.

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Let me tell you, to get them both ready within an hour is hard. Arya was fussy and Averie did not have a nap and was throwing tantrums.

After it felt like forever, we were ready. Introducing, The Peppas. Mommy pig, Daddy pig, Georg-ina, and Peppa.

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Did you notice that this was a DIY costume.

Averie’s dress is an actual t-shirt from the boys section that I cut out. I bought her a long sleeve shirt and stockings. For Rob, I got him a Polo last minute in Walmart. And for me, I bought the dress on sale on Amazon and the long sleeve was bought in Walmart. For Arya, I had a teal long sleeve onsie but after seeing her in the tinkerbell costume I fell in love and left her in that costume instead.

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This year was the best, Averie and I were singing along to, “This is Halloween, this is halloween, everyone SCREAM!” and we would scream and laugh.

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Best moment of my night, was when Averie and I got scared together. As we were going to a house it looked like a statue was holding candy with a bucket, and all of the sudden it moved! “AHHHHH” we got scared as it began to wave, to our surprise it was only a lady dressed up. She got us real good.

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This Halloween it was one to remember. Averie told us “Thank you Mommy & Daddy. Had so much fun!”

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-The Mominista

October Recap: Pumpkin Patch

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On October 29, 2017 we decided to go visit the pumpkin patch at Bedner’s Farm. It was an hour drive from where we live, as it is located in Boyton Beach. But we didn’t care about the ride, the pictures were worth the trip.

Pumpkin Patch 2014.jpgSince 2014, the Bedner’s pumpkin patch has become a tradition to us. When Averie was born (as seen above) it was the first pumpkin patch we went to and we decided to do the same with Arya for 2017.

 

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We attended the farm on closing day. Just a heads up, try to go earlier in the month and early in the day to avoid long lines. The Fall festival was opened from September 30 till October 29 . The pumpkin patch was opened every day except on Tuesday’s. It had a corn maze, hay rides, petting zoo, and a bounce house with rides. It was packed with families and kids dressed in costumes, even dogs.

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Averie decided to dress like a witch for the pumpkin patch. I let her choose her costume as she had 2 other options, which you will see later.

When we arrived, I could hear myself saying “Averie, over here. Arya, ahhh-goooo” non stop. When I zoned out of our world, I locked eyes with one middle aged mom saying, “Kevin … Kevin look at me. Over here son.” I finally realized I wasn’t alone. I turned back to the girls and continued on.

 

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Averie was having a blast looking at all the different size of pumpkins in the patch.

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But when she heard the music, she stopped and began to dance. In this particular picture she was dancing to Taylor Swift, “Shake It Off.”

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Arya was having a blast too. She is such a happy baby.

The day was beautiful for us, the sun was finally out. The day before it had rain and we were worried that it would continue for us at the pumpkin patch. But luckily, not one dark cloud was around. It was breezy and perfect.

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For the life of me, I could not capture one picture of Averie looking towards the camera. But you know what, I love that. She was in her moment at that time.

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(Arya and Mommy)

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One of my favorite pictures with both girls.

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Daddy specifically wanted a picture like this with Arya. And boy, thank god he told me because it was a great shot.

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On the last day of the Fall festival, Bedner’s holds a costume contest. They had a live DJ giving away free items. But in this picture Averie just wanted to dance.

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World Famous food truck was there and their egg rolls were FIRE! Meaning, they were delicious. The line was pretty long but it moved fast. We shared BBQ pulled pork egg rolls. If you are ever around the area check them out, they are local in Boyton Beach.

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We decided to take a break near the market area. We sat in an open field while children were playing cornhole,running, and trying to escape their parents…

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Of course my daughter joined in the fun.

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We viewed the corn maze from afar as the floor became to soggy to continue on.

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This is us. This is our life captured in action. This will be our family picture. It captured us in the moment, the truth about this picture is so pure. Perfectly imperfect.

I’m not going to sugar coat our visit, we had taken so many pictures before. I want to share with you pretty pictures but I also want you to be aware that we have a normal life.

You see the picture above? Before taking it we had over 5 tantrums while we were there. It started to get hot, the floor was soggy and wet. Fire ants bit me before entering the farm. Everything you thought could go wrong did, but we made the best of it. That’s life, parenthood at it’s finest moment.

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Arya loved to look around at people. She would look at every detail. She didn’t cry, which was one of my fears.

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But look at this face, i’m so in love with her. She was so happy which made me melt.

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Look at this picture and the one below it.

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They are truly alike. Both picture show that they are in sync with each other. It amazes us sometimes.

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This was a beautiful experience we shared as a family. Till next year, Bedner’s Farm.

 

Stay tuned for the last October Recap.

-The Mominista

 

October Recap: Office Decor & Party

 

I love to decorate and my job let me be the chosen one to do so.

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The annual Halloween Office party was a hit!

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Our department dressed up like the circus/ freak show. It was so much fun!

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I was the demented fortune teller. Having the fortunes drawn across my chest. Can you believe this whole outfit was taken out of the closet?

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The ringleader.

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We got TWISTY!

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Here we have the Siamese twins, Dee and Thot.

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The Mime.

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Our broken doll.

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Take a look at the other groups that participated.

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The Evil Torturers

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Mr. Run DMC in the house!

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Team Risky.

 

We had a totally BOO-dacious time at the party.

 

Stay tuned for more October recaps.

-The Mominista

October Recap: Home Decor

October is one of my favorite months. Because it’s HALLOWEEN, duh!

I have been a busy witch with my little monsters, check out what all the Hocus Pocus I’ve been up to below.

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Bought our pumpkins for the girls. (Before)

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Jack. Averie’s favorite

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Mr.Funny/happy face as Averie’s calls it.

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Time to start decorating. Here we have Averie, who just woke up to help Daddy put up a Halloween door decoration.

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When it comes to holidays, yes I am one to consider Halloween a holiday. It’s a day you can dress as whoever you want to be, how cool is that? And it doesn’t matter what age you are, you can get away with it.

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This year I wanted to go all out. I was noticing that Averie had been paying close attention to details with her surroundings. But I was bit worry that Averie wouldn’t like it.

20171001_163905.jpg I first started the tradition with watching, “A Nightmare Before Christmas.” SHE WAS HOOKED. All I kept hearing from her was “This is Halloween, This is Halloween.” So when that occurred, I knew I was in the clear to go all out with the decor.

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After everything was in place, the best feeling was when the girls saw the finished production. Averie told me, “Oh wow mom, thank you. Thank you.” Arya would not stop laughing with Mr. Frankenstein that was by the door.

 

Stay tuned for more recaps of October.

-The Mominista

Embrace the Chaos via Kristina Kuzmic

Kristina Kuzmic is my type of momma friend I would like. She speaks the truth about what WE ALL think. Even if we don’t say it out loud.
After posting my rant the other day. A friend of mine (Michelle) shared this lovely video with me and I couldn’t agree more! 

If we are not enjoying life or keep ourselves sane … well WE will be miserable, who likes that?! NOT ME and I bet your shaking your head as you are reading this because YOU don’t want to be miserable either.

 So let’s live life fully than perfectly because motherhood is not perfect. Please share this video with other mama’s because you don’t know what they are going through. And they may not know that it is OK not to be perfect.

Please share your story with me below. What did will you do differently? When I was pregnant with Arya, I went to a grocery store with Averie and danced in the middle of the aisle to our favorite Marc Anthony song. The sale associates cheered us on. It was so much fun! Today, I blasted “Poker Face” by Lady Gaga and we had a dance party in the car. I would LOVE to hear other ideas so we can try, share yours below.

– Video via www.kristinakuzmic.com

Chasing After Perfection

I have always admired other mom’s on social media. You know the ones that have perfect pictures filtered correctly on Instagram. The ones that could record all their daily activities and post it on Youtube. Or the ones that seem to have their life together while you are just trying to catch up. I applaud you! 

I have come to understand THAT life, the ONE I so much admire is pure infatuation. A mirage. An illusion. I’m not fucking perfect. Momma, I tried being you and I don’t know how you do it?

Just last night, I looked at my phone and found all the pictures I have kept from posting because I thought “It wasn’t perfect enough.” Social media has let me to believe that “perfect pictures” must be edited one, you know the professional looking ones but that’s not the case… well, it shouldn’t be.

So this is my rant. 

I will post some unfiltered pictures, I will talk about my daily struggles.  I may not post every day because I wake up daily at 6am, get the girls ready, hope that there is no tantrums and out the door to sit in traffic for an hour. To turn back the opposite direction for work. Get back home after sundown and do it all over again the next day. That’s real. That’s life.

I commend you momma’s, the ones that have beautiful quality pictures, videos, diy and etc. BUT don’t take this as distateful, don’t get me wrong. I admire that of you and the time it must take to edit and upload. But I’m just sharing my opinion. I tried it, I surely did and I came to a conclusion, that I can’t keep chasing after perfection. It’s just not me. 

Simply I am just that… perfectly, imperfect.

Rant over.

Hurricane Irma

On September 3, Rob and I were sitting on the couch watching channel 7, WSVN. The weather forecast was showing that a hurricane was forming and it looked like it was coming for us.

Rob told me, “Watch it will miss us.”

I think he said that to calm my nerves. Because my mind was swirling through a million of thoughts at the same time. “Where would we go?” “I have a baby.” “She needs water and formula.” “I need toys and entertainment for Averie.” Then I snapped out of it when I remembered that I went this crazy for tropical storm Erika that was supposed to land and become a hurricane when it touched Florida. At that time, Averie was barely 2 months and I literally bought ALL the unnecessary items because it never came. So, can this happen again?

I then decided to go on Facebook.

This is something I do everyday just to check up on social media news. A friend of ours, Eric posted models showing different paths that the hurricane may take, the possibility of it being a category 4 or 5 and that made me interested yet worrisome. He stayed focus on models showing that it would come towards us. I messaged him and asked him for advice. All I got from that conversation was that we should pack before the media creates a chaos!

Great, just when we were going to start; the next day the media announced to start prepping. Chaos erupted. First thing I did was to put gas in my car, it was Monday and I was late for work and lines were already starting. I told myself, “I hope I don’t need to come back to the gas station.” I always have seen people on TV making lines and I had no patience for watching that or even want to be in it. To my luck, because of work, I had to get gas again before the Hurricane hit us. I woke up at 6am and waited 20 mins. Yup, tell me about.

Next thing I did was go to the grocery store. Have you ever seen World War Z , Contagion, or Zombieland (personal note, I got Twinkies in homage to Woody Harrelson. LOL) You know the part at the grocery store? People a bit chaotic, you looking for specific item. Yup, that scene was playing in real life. Except, no zombies or viruses. Only, empty shelves. No water. No batteries. No candles. Nothing left. 

At one point I did feel hopeless, finding water for Arya. Yes, I buy baby water. I know you can just boil water and it will be OK. But I normally just buy it. I went to Babies R Us twice and both times they had no water. When I asked if they were getting a shipment they said “The shipment has been stopped due to the Hurricane”. A piece of me cringed. I wondered if other mother’s were in the same need as me. I thankfully, got a full months worth of formula, just incase. Rob’s mother ended up finding us water.

We packed our bags (I over pack for all possibilities) and got things prepped and bordered at our home and left to ride the storm at Rob’s parents house.

When the storm was approaching we had light. We had prepared stations of first aid kit and a location for candles, batteries, and flashlights. Averie played as much on her tablet while we watched the news. 

Right after the girls finished taking a shower… LIGHTS OUT. And they remained off during the storm. All you can hear is the howling wind gust. In the back of the house was hurricane windows so those weren’t covered. There were times that when you looked outside it was pure white. It was breathtaking, the power of mothernature. What kicked in my anxiety was the constant emergency text blasting on all the cellphones of possible of tornados in the area. The heat was unbearable. The fact that I did pack one fan for Arya, wasn’t enough. Round the clock showers were constantly made for them so they wouldn’t get fussy. I know better now.

The girls weren’t aware how serious this was. I told Averie that there was a big storm coming with lots of rain and wind. And she was fine with it. I brought her toys and coloring books to keep her entertained. Arya is to little to know what’s going on but I made sure to let her know that mommy and daddy and Averie were with her.

This experience was truly an eye opener. I have experienced it as a child and didn’t think much of it. All I cared for when I was small was no school and I could sleep in. But now experiencing it as a mother, was an anxiety whirlwind. I believe seeing Hurricane Harvey hit Texas weeks before made us feel like we could be the ones in their shoes. That devastation could happen here and it made me prep a lot more. I even bought life vests just in case of flooding. Yes, extremely overboard but safety and peace of mind is at the top of my list when prepping.

It has taken a while for me to write, as I was getting our lives back to normal and back to a routine. I am grateful. Hurricane Irma’s aftermath only left us with broken down trees and power outages. This experience has taught me that it’s better to prepare on time and that family is most important.