Chasing After Perfection

I have always admired other mom’s on social media. You know the ones that have perfect pictures filtered correctly on Instagram. The ones that could record all their daily activities and post it on Youtube. Or the ones that seem to have their life together while you are just trying to catch up. I applaud you! 

I have come to understand THAT life, the ONE I so much admire is pure infatuation. A mirage. An illusion. I’m not fucking perfect. Momma, I tried being you and I don’t know how you do it?

Just last night, I looked at my phone and found all the pictures I have kept from posting because I thought “It wasn’t perfect enough.” Social media has let me to believe that “perfect pictures” must be edited one, you know the professional looking ones but that’s not the case… well, it shouldn’t be.

So this is my rant. 

I will post some unfiltered pictures, I will talk about my daily struggles.  I may not post every day because I wake up daily at 6am, get the girls ready, hope that there is no tantrums and out the door to sit in traffic for an hour. To turn back the opposite direction for work. Get back home after sundown and do it all over again the next day. That’s real. That’s life.

I commend you momma’s, the ones that have beautiful quality pictures, videos, diy and etc. BUT don’t take this as distateful, don’t get me wrong. I admire that of you and the time it must take to edit and upload. But I’m just sharing my opinion. I tried it, I surely did and I came to a conclusion, that I can’t keep chasing after perfection. It’s just not me. 

Simply I am just that… perfectly, imperfect.

Rant over.

Hurricane Irma

On September 3, Rob and I were sitting on the couch watching channel 7, WSVN. The weather forecast was showing that a hurricane was forming and it looked like it was coming for us.

Rob told me, “Watch it will miss us.”

I think he said that to calm my nerves. Because my mind was swirling through a million of thoughts at the same time. “Where would we go?” “I have a baby.” “She needs water and formula.” “I need toys and entertainment for Averie.” Then I snapped out of it when I remembered that I went this crazy for tropical storm Erika that was supposed to land and become a hurricane when it touched Florida. At that time, Averie was barely 2 months and I literally bought ALL the unnecessary items because it never came. So, can this happen again?

I then decided to go on Facebook.

This is something I do everyday just to check up on social media news. A friend of ours, Eric posted models showing different paths that the hurricane may take, the possibility of it being a category 4 or 5 and that made me interested yet worrisome. He stayed focus on models showing that it would come towards us. I messaged him and asked him for advice. All I got from that conversation was that we should pack before the media creates a chaos!

Great, just when we were going to start; the next day the media announced to start prepping. Chaos erupted. First thing I did was to put gas in my car, it was Monday and I was late for work and lines were already starting. I told myself, “I hope I don’t need to come back to the gas station.” I always have seen people on TV making lines and I had no patience for watching that or even want to be in it. To my luck, because of work, I had to get gas again before the Hurricane hit us. I woke up at 6am and waited 20 mins. Yup, tell me about.

Next thing I did was go to the grocery store. Have you ever seen World War Z , Contagion, or Zombieland (personal note, I got Twinkies in homage to Woody Harrelson. LOL) You know the part at the grocery store? People a bit chaotic, you looking for specific item. Yup, that scene was playing in real life. Except, no zombies or viruses. Only, empty shelves. No water. No batteries. No candles. Nothing left. 

At one point I did feel hopeless, finding water for Arya. Yes, I buy baby water. I know you can just boil water and it will be OK. But I normally just buy it. I went to Babies R Us twice and both times they had no water. When I asked if they were getting a shipment they said “The shipment has been stopped due to the Hurricane”. A piece of me cringed. I wondered if other mother’s were in the same need as me. I thankfully, got a full months worth of formula, just incase. Rob’s mother ended up finding us water.

We packed our bags (I over pack for all possibilities) and got things prepped and bordered at our home and left to ride the storm at Rob’s parents house.

When the storm was approaching we had light. We had prepared stations of first aid kit and a location for candles, batteries, and flashlights. Averie played as much on her tablet while we watched the news. 

Right after the girls finished taking a shower… LIGHTS OUT. And they remained off during the storm. All you can hear is the howling wind gust. In the back of the house was hurricane windows so those weren’t covered. There were times that when you looked outside it was pure white. It was breathtaking, the power of mothernature. What kicked in my anxiety was the constant emergency text blasting on all the cellphones of possible of tornados in the area. The heat was unbearable. The fact that I did pack one fan for Arya, wasn’t enough. Round the clock showers were constantly made for them so they wouldn’t get fussy. I know better now.

The girls weren’t aware how serious this was. I told Averie that there was a big storm coming with lots of rain and wind. And she was fine with it. I brought her toys and coloring books to keep her entertained. Arya is to little to know what’s going on but I made sure to let her know that mommy and daddy and Averie were with her.

This experience was truly an eye opener. I have experienced it as a child and didn’t think much of it. All I cared for when I was small was no school and I could sleep in. But now experiencing it as a mother, was an anxiety whirlwind. I believe seeing Hurricane Harvey hit Texas weeks before made us feel like we could be the ones in their shoes. That devastation could happen here and it made me prep a lot more. I even bought life vests just in case of flooding. Yes, extremely overboard but safety and peace of mind is at the top of my list when prepping.

It has taken a while for me to write, as I was getting our lives back to normal and back to a routine. I am grateful. Hurricane Irma’s aftermath only left us with broken down trees and power outages. This experience has taught me that it’s better to prepare on time and that family is most important.

Recap- First Week Back to Work

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A bittersweet feeling came over me last Sunday night. I was torn with the thought of going back to work and leaving my two daughters behind. I was already used to our routine, waking up and having breakfast, our daily reading and our dance parties. But I knew it would be for the best and that this feeling was only temporary. The first day back at work I felt uneased, I sat down waiting to hear Averie ask, “Mommy?” and cooing baby Arya in the background. But I came to work with talking adults. Ha-ha. The week was filled with amazing baby gifts and welcome back talks. I needed the break from the children but throughout the day I would wonder if they needed me. That feeling quickly left as I just counted the hours until I was back home. That is what I love the most of the days after work, when I will open the door and I hear Averie say, “MOMMY, YOU FOUND ME.” and baby Arya cooing “AHHH”. This feeling would melt me every time and just then I knew it was ok.

Averie’s Haul: Claire’s

Recently, Averie has been fascinated on watching kid’s haul videos on YoutubeKids. I decided to give it a try and let her do a video on her own. Check out the items I got for her from Claire’s.

I didn’t think she would want to do it but she was ready. Her reactions are priceless, check it out.

Welcome Arya

photo_2017-08-22_18-28-31.jpgArya Rosalyn Cuevas born June 5, 2017, we are delighted to have expanded our family. She came into this world weighing 10 lb with the height of 21 in.

I am still trying to get adjusted to being a mom of two.

It’s amazing to see Averie being a big sister. I truly see the love they have for each other, even if they are still little. I have stumbled in their room and heard Averie sing her lullaby’s; if I ask her to help she is jumps up and says,”Ok mom, help.” Arya smiles and laughs with her big sister. It’s a feeling that is unexplainable until you are in it.

When they say family is everything, it sure is. Making memories are my number one priority now.

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5 Minute Put Together Look

“Ok, you only got 5 minutes.” You say to yourself, before your toddler wakes up or before your baby starts crying for you for food. You look like you haven’t slept in a year and quite frankly you are starting to look like a ghost. Don’t just throw eyeliner on and say “W.e I don’t have time.” Give yourself some glamour into your life, you’ll feel better once you do. Come on girl, it’s time to put some makeup on and it’s all going to be under 5 minutes. I am going to show you how I get my face on and out the door. Are you ready?

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Below are the products I used. I didn’t try to go full out because after all I only have 5 minutes, so I picked the most essential items to me.

My Maternity Shoot

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Before I became a mother I always envisioned my maternity shoot. It would go something like this, a beautiful sunny day, a light breeze; with love ones surrounding me and the feeling of empowerment by what I was creating inside. On April 15, 2017 this was the day that I felt all of that.

I have the best mom friends, Michelle and Yesenia surprised me a week before this day and told me “SURPRISE, you have a photoshoot on this date, time and oh, we got you a dress. So don’t stress!” My eyes watered, my jaw fell to the floor, and I let out a scream of excitement! I literally, could not believe it.

I had never done a professional photoshoot before and Rosa, photographer of Perfect Love Photography is beyond amazing to work with. She clearly knows how to work with kids because she was able to capture my toddler smiling in pictures while she was running around. She had Averie entertained and laughing throughout the entire shoot. I appreciate that she had patience and played with her. She made me feel relaxed in all of our shots and made us laugh when I would make an awkward pose and we would adjust to it.

Our photos came out amazing filled with the most beautiful warm natural lighting, just like I envisioned. If it wasn’t for my mommy friends I literally wouldn’t have this magical moment captured. I am truly grateful for this gift given to my family.

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–  The Mominista

Product Review: Amazon’s Fire HD 8 Kids Edition

So a while back we bought an Insignia tablet for Averie. Let me tell you it’s the best thing we had ever purchase. Especially, when we are at a restaurant Averie could get entertained for an entire meal. I sometimes wonder what my parents had, to entertain me while I was a child (possibly paper and colors). Currently, we ran into issues, apps wouldn’t upload and we were unable to do updates. And if you are a parent of a toddler this is critical, so it was time for a change.

Rob did his research on kid friendly tablets. He showed me Amazon’s Fire HD 8 Kids Edition. It is designed with kids in mind. SCORE!

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And we love the fact that it lasts for a total of 12-hour because of their mixed-use battery life. It is more than enough for Averie and it came with a pink kid proof case with the purchase.

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But what we love most of all is that this tablet is educational (something we both wanted) and Amazon gives you access to 15,000 popular apps for a year. YES, 15,000. Averie has been learning sentences. Just the other day she asked me, “Mom, what’s your favorite color?” I was shocked because she is only 2 1/2. How did she learn that? Or how about she asked, “Mom, why is the sky black?” I asked her “Why” and she told me, “Because it’s night time.” My heart melted with joy as she told me those words. She is reading, she is learning and I am proud.

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One thing that sold me on this product was the 2 year worry-free guarantee. Amazon promises that if your child breaks it or you return it. They will replace it for F-R-E-E, no questions asked. How awesome is that? We all know by now that toddlers love to throw things, spill juice and the list goes on.

I recommend this product. I know we are in July, but if your child’s birthday is coming up or you are even thinking about Christmas in July (like I am) this would be a great gift for both you and a child. It’s a great investment for learning and overall fun!

– The Mominista

5 Must Have’s During Pregnancy

Once you find out you are pregnant all excitement begins and you IMMEDIATELY want to start shopping for … the baby. But hold on baby girl; let’s get YOUR essential items first. You’ll thank me for this post later! You are welcome.

So for me, once I knew I was pregnant again, right away I told myself, “Oh shit I need….”

  1. Maternity bra that will eventually be a nursing bra. loving moments by leading lady maternityImage via Walmart.com I’m a mommy on a budget. So Walmart was the place I found my maternity/nursing bra. My tip is if you are a C cup know that during pregnancy you will go up a size. So choose a bigger cup, you’ll thank me later. For both of my pregnancy’s I have used, Loving Moments by Leading Lady Maternity Wirefree Sport Nursing Bra with Padded Comfort Straps and Full Sling. It is comfortable and adjustable.
  2. Maternity Underwear Great Expectations Maternity Over the Belly 2 Pack Seamless PantiesImage via Walmart.comOnce again, Walmart comes in handy. Just recently I used, Great Expectations Maternity Over the Belly 2 Pack Seamless Panties and they were life savers. They hugged my big ol’ belly just right and they were super comfortable, didn’t feel like I was wearing anything. And that’s an awesome feeling for a preggo! What I LOVED about it was the fact that it came in a 2 pack deal!
  3. Pregnancy pants Maternity Full-Panel Skinny JeansImage via oldnavy.com  Old Navy saved me both times for my pregnancy. I love skinny jeans/pants and they cater to maternity women’s fashion. If you are not sure what pants you should buy give Old Navy’s Maternity Full-Panel Skinny Jeans a try. The waistband hugs the belly in all the right places and the jeans are fitted just like you were non pregnant.
  4. Maxi Dress onImage via oldnavy.comI am telling you now; it must have some type of opening in the front. Eventually, you will want to breastfeed. Easy access, duh! Plus, when you are SUPER pregnant, usually when you are around 35 weeks, you will end up blowing up big time (you will look like a turtle and feel like a whale I’m just being honest) and the last thing on your mind is trying to decide what fits you by figuring out what to wear. You will rather just throw something on and go on your way because walking takes a bit of time and you are already running late. Same thing happens after you give birth, you want to feel comfortable. What is fashionable and convenient? Take a look at this Old Navy Maternity Side-Slit Henley Maxi Dress. It has 3 buttons that you can open and breastfeed your child. You both win!
  5. Sandals adidasImage via Adidas.comnewbalanceImage via newbalance.com

    I swore that I will never get canckles during pregnancy because I would be an active mommy. HA! HA! HA! Yeah right! No matter if you are sitting, running behind a toddler, or exercising. Your feet will get swollen and that shit hurts! So I am telling you now, go buy sandals! Wide width will be your friend! Preferably like the one above, from Adidas, Women’s Training Adilette Ultra SlidesOh! and remember you will possibly need a bigger size. During both of my pregnancy, my foot got so swollen I was a size 10 – 10.5 and non-pregnant I am a 9 in shoes. You can also get sandals with adjustable strap,  New Balance PureAlign Slide. This helped me so much at the office when I couldn’t fit into the Adidas. Yes, they got real bad.

    So, that’s it. Those were my top 5 items needed during pregnancy. Happy shopping and enjoy your pregnancy.

     

    – The Mominista

I’m Back

 

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Hello everybody! OH, how I missed you.

It’s been a while since I have written on here. Let me give you some background information on what has been going on in my world.

The Mominista was founded in November 2015. During that time, Averie was born and I was on maternity leave. I got inspired to have a blog as a new mommy. But then an opportunity emerged. One day, I was browsing online to see what jobs were in the area for fashion. You know just for fun and giggles. Then I saw it, the corporate offices for Claire’s Boutiques had an opening. I turned to Rob (Fiance.) and said, “Should I apply?” and he told me, “Of course.” I went in with the mentality of, “If I get it, I get it. If I don’t, don’t stress about it”. Guess what happened?

I GOT THE JOB! Averie was 3 months and it was the hardest thing for me. I then disregarded the blog and life continued. I always had the blog in the back of my head but it once again, life.

Fast forward, to June 13, 2016. I graduated with my Bachelor’s degree in Fashion Merchandising from Miami International University AND I got ENGAGED! It was one of the best moments in my life. One, my daughter was there and two, I was engaged to my high school sweetheart. (Insert “AWWEEE”) At the same time I got a promotion at work. Life was awesome.

The next couple of months, there was a lot of traveling to Disney World as we were annual passholders. Literally, almost every month we visited the mouse and friends.

Continue to the month of October, that’s when I found out I was pregnant. We could’ve sworn it was a boy. But to our SURPRISE, it was a girl. A friend for Averie!!! We were all excited.

We rang in the New Year 2017 with Averie and a bun in the oven.

February 25, our friends got married and both Rob and I were walking the wedding (yup I was 5 months pregnant). We were happy to part of their wedding. At the same time, Rob and I were moving! Just in time for my birthday!!

For my birthday March 8, I have the best mommy friends! Love them to death, they spoiled me got me cake, we went out, and we played the hilarious game of Speak Out. You know the one that looks like you are going to the dentist? That’s a game you must play, if you haven’t already. And we can’t forget my job, I have the best Manager and department ever! They treated me to a surprise birthday cake, took me out to eat at Sosta Café (please check them out. Best customer service, the owner is always there and hooks you up!) March was one of my busiest months, we then had another wedding we attended to on March 25, our other friends got married. It was the cutest, most intimate wedding. It was perfect for them. Then Averie, had a bunch of birthday parties to attend, she had a blast.

On April 15, I had my surprise maternity shoot from the group of mommy friends! I have never felt so pretty and secure of my body as I did that day. I loved it. I had a surprise baby shower at work. The following weeks were spent with Averie, did a belly cast, and by the time you know it I was ready to POP!

June 5, 2017 we welcomed Arya into our lives. As a family of four we were now complete. Averie has been wonderful helping us out and being a big sister. So I can’t wait to share with you my new journey as a mommy of two.

Yay, I did it. I am back. This is my first post of many more to come.

– The Mominista