Goodwill – Memories

Goodwill

I would admit now, that I hold on to items in my home. No, I’m not a hoarder. But you know sentimental things like, onesies the girls wore that carry a personal story behind it. Or specific toys that they would play with. I take things like this very personally. Two weeks ago, I did my first donation at Goodwill.

Backstory: I cleaned out my closet and I had a bag of my clothes and some baby clothes too. But I also had the car sear that both Arya and Averie used when they were babies. I remember vividly, both car rides home from the hospital when each of the girls were born.

Fast forward now, these items had been in my car for a while, never having the guts to donate it. Until I was watch YouTube Blogger, Brianna K (if you don’t follow this mommy, you should.) and on this specific video she was donating two car rides full of items and said how good it felt to donate. Well that same day I said, “It is time.”

As I left work during my lunch break to Goodwill it began to rain badly. I hesitated and told myself, “Maybe, this is a sign not to go?” but then I changed my mind and went.

I pulled up on the side, the doors opened and I was greeted by an associate whom I gave the bag of clothes to. Then I uttered, “Do you accept car seats?” I assumed they didn’t due to liability reasons. And he said, “yes.” As I was handing it over, he stated “Oh no, I think our system is down.” I immediately thought it was another sign in my mind I said, “God is that you? But why would I need the car seat if the girls out grew it, right?”

I told him, “Sir, I honestly do not know how this works. It is my first time.” He handed me a paper document to fill out, which to my surprise it was a receipt that I can now claim as a charitable deduction on my federal tax return. When we were done, I walked towards the car and I sat.

An overwhelming feeling came over me as I starred at the rainy window and began to cry. You may tell me, “Ady, but why are you crying?” I know, yes it’s just material things that I am crying about but now I’ve learned something that I never knew before.

I hold onto memories. Good memories. Now giving these items away feels like the girls are growing up. Even little Arya would crawl into the car seat now and watch TV.

As sad as it sounds to me to be giving something sentimental away, it brought me peace to know that possibly another family would need it more than me. With that said, I turned on the car, wipes my tears and the car windshield. I said a “Thank you” like Marie Kondo and drove away.

I now know something I never knew before, that I collect memories but it’s ok to donate those material items on your own time.

-The Mominista

Do you know what is: Hand, Foot and Mouth?

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On Monday, I was informed by daycare that Arya was irritable. I assumed it was just because “it’ was Monday.” Later at night I went to take off her shoes and I noticed her sole of her feet had a rash. I immediately thought, it had to be the bleach from the shoes that I just washed over the weekend. It must’ve had residue and my poor girl got irritated.

Backstory: Arya has very sensitive skin. If she gets hot, she will break into hives.  I assumed it was just that.

In the early morning, as we were sleep, I felt Arya’s body on fire. Yes, I still co-sleep. Like, her whole body was hot. Afraid that she would get a heat rash, I uncovered her and fell back to sleep. When we woke up, I made sure she didn’t have a body rash. She didn’t so off to daycare we went. At night, Arya was complaining about her mouth. I brushed it off assuming she may have bit herself as she was at that moment eating a snack.

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But what caught my attention was when she was washing her hands. At the sink, I noticed her elbows. It had blisters, which I never seen her have. I checked the other elbow and she also had it. Immediately, I thought “OMG, NO! She can’t have what I think.” When I opened her mouth, it bothered her and I discovered that she had blisters inside. I then knew right there, she may have hand, foot and mouth. What to do now?

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I called Rob over to the bathroom, so he can see for himself. He decided to do a virtual visit via United Healthcare. The wait was less than 10 minutes. They asked for Arya’s temperature, which was normal and a couple of pictures of the rash. I would say the visit was like Skype/Facetime. She asked for more pictures. Then the video call crashed, it went down as soon as we were getting the results. Just my luck, huh?

She called me instead right away to tell me the results. She confirmed what I already knew, you know mother’s instinct. Arya had hand, foot and mouth. I asked her, “Ok, what medication does she need? What can we do?”  You wouldn’t believe the response.

She uttered the word, “Nothing.” I couldn’t believe it. “There’s no medication, shot or cure.” As parents we strive to help our child when their sick. We feel their pain and we always want it to go away. How can something like this not have a cure? I was left wondering what if?

As my mind went to other scenarios, “What if its Allergies and the virtual visit was wrong?” “What if it’s something worse?” I had enough; the answer didn’t sit well with me, so I had to get a second opinion. I made an appointment to Pediatric Associates. I wasn’t able to find an appointment with her primary physician but during this time Averie was also sick and I found one doctor that had back to back appointment time. Yes!

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We were attended quickly; Averie had a cough/common cold. But when the doctor saw Arya, who I must say resembles Dr. Pimple Popper. She confirmed from just looking at her, that she had hand, foot and mouth disease. In her words, “without a doubt she has it, nothing to cure it. Just comfort Arya with lots of nice cold ice cream, soft foods and Tylenol. But I must warn you, some parents don’t know this. When the rash subsides, her fingernails may fall off. All the way.”

My mouth dropped!

I just couldn’t believe it. The doctor recommended that Arya not attend daycare for a week or until the rash goes away and for Averie to be away from Arya as it can be contagious. I also asked, if adults could get it and I was informed it wasn’t as severe as the children but that every body reacts different. You know I went full blown cleaning mode as I got home and began to wash and disinfect everything.

As a mom, I needed to know where she got hand, foot and mouth. What I am most happy about is that Arya wasn’t as severe as the images I viewed on Google. Thank God. But for my sanity, I still ended up asking the daycare if there were other children with it and to my surprise there were. I was informed that deep cleaning was to be conducted over the long weekend.

I share this story to bring awareness to this disease. I would like others to know what is, educate and if possible how to cure it, in case it may happen to your own children. In this scenario, as crazy it sounds there is no cure. But do read about it because you never know when it can happen to you.

-The Mominista

We are on Youtube!

Hey everyone, we can finally say that we have a YOUTUBE CHANNEL! That is right. We decided to open one up after numerous talks about the contents we will have, making sure not to make it burden but most importantly remembering that it should be fun for the girls.

We will have product reviews, mommy and me’s, DIY, fashion and family fun activities.

So with that being said, please make sure to head on over to Youtube (down below) and check out our first video welcoming you to our lives. We have so much content in stores for you. Make sure to hit the subscribe button so you can see our latest videos.

 

25th Screen Actors Guild Awards

On Sunday, January 27, 2019 the SAG Awards were presented.

After, looking at some of my recent fashion posts, I wanted to take a moment and change the layout on the way I was posting it. In my opinion, I personally love to talk about how the outfit comes together. Imagine, Joan Rivers on Fashion Police. “Hi, I am Ady from The Mominista.” Except here, there is no criticizing, no bad vibes or worst dressed. I am all about who wore it best!

Here are my nominations for the Best Dressed of the night.

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MARGOT ROBBIE

In Chanel

She is stunning from head to toe.  This semi-sheer gown made her naturally glow. Perfect match of natural makeup. With hair effortlessly done. I am LOVING it. The plunged neckline to the golden weaving was statuesque.

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MANDY MOORE

In Jason Wu

I am not a fan of an all black dress. I am a colored garment girl. BUT WOW. Oh wow, Mandy was bringing it! The encrusted jewel off the shoulder neckline was the pop for me. I also like the belt detail around the waist. I am loving the hair style parted and pulled back into a low pony tail. And the thigh high slit made the dress not so formal, but slightly sexy.

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LADY GAGA

In Dior Haute Couture

Channeled old school glamour with a twist. The thigh high slit showed her bodysuit that was assembled to the train. I like the feather like detail on the top. The statement piece looks like a modern day choker by Tiffany & Co. Her dark burgundy lip made the dress look sexy and flattering. Her hair was styled in a low ballerina bun but giving a classic Hollywood wave glam in the front.

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RYAN MICHELLE BATHE

In Sebastian Gunawan

This mermaid dress was stunning. The embroidery work is beautifully done. The sheer over the shoulder into a collar is exquisite. The ombre feathers were a hit for me. I am loving that the dress hugged her curves in a flattering way. Hair up was the perfect style for this dress.

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JULIA GARNER

In Zac Posen

Hello, Casablanca? Doesn’t she look marvelous? A young Ingrid Bergman mix with a bit of Marilyn Monroe. Yes, Darling! Her look was that of old Hollywood glam and I am loving all of it. The mermaid silhouette was covered in dotted degrade taffeta. The ombre teal effect was as lovely as the off the shoulder neckline with a gathered fold-over detail. The back not seen in this picture was cut in a V shape. The peplum waist accentuated her curves in the best way possible. The coral lip was the finishing touch to this amazing look.

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LAVERNE COX

In Zac Posen

My head turned when I saw this sheath satin silhouette hit the carpet.  The floor-sweeping hem was cut to the perfect length. What made the dress come life was the custom gemstone embellishment made by Marianna Harutunian on the draped open back. Originally, the dress does not come this way. I love how the dress gracefully falls from a quasi cape detail. This was divine at its finest, darling! Yas, Laverne, Yaaaaaas!

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The trends of the night were the following:

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I hope you enjoyed, let me know if you would like me to give you other trends like beauty or hair. Any ideas that you may have submit on the comments below. I would love to hear from you.

-The Mominista

 

 

 

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10 Questions to Answer by the Age of 30

Hello, mommas, future mommas, soon to be mommas and if you are new to this page welcome.

Let me reintroduce myself, my name is Adysbel. How do you pronounce it? Ah-dis-bell. You can call me Ady for short. In this post, I thought it would be best to let you get to know me a little better.  I’ve done a lot of reflecting lately, and it may be due to all the constant feed on my Facebook of my former classmates turning 30 this year.

I think that by the age of 30, you should be able to answer some important life questions.

Here are my 10 questions

1- What is one advice I would’ve given myself at age 23?

Take your time. Invest. Don’t spend money, save instead. Move out to your own apartment. Travel the world.

2- In what ways can I be kinder to myself?

Stop trying to be the perfect cleaning mom. I have a problem, I always am cleaning. And I become overwhelmed with a dirty room. I need to relax about having an apartment with kids clean 100% of the time. I can improve by cleaning one room at a time and be satisfied. At least something was done, right?

3-  What is my definition of success?

Write down your goals. Don’t give up. Put in the work. Stay motivated. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you, crossing one completed goal off at a time is success.

4-  What is one thing you are tired of hearing?

I irk, when someone says they are “tired” especially, if they don’t have kids. I used to say this all the time when I was young and until now I understand the TRUE meaning. Saying this to a mother is just plain WRONG. You do not know what tired is until you have kids. Most moms are already sleep deprived at 8  months pregnant. You may ask why, that is because you can barely breathe, let alone sleep in a comfortable position. You better ONLY be “tired” if you are in school, caring for someone or working on achieving your goals. Not just because you are “tired”.

5-  Where do I see myself in 5 years?

I see myself running my own business, working on what I love and having my own schedule to focus more on family.

6-  Do I care what other people think about me?

Let’s be honest, I may never stop caring but I think by my 30’s I will let it stop affecting me.

7-  Should I feel guilty about cutting someone off?

I have learned from my 20’s that not all friendships are worth my time and energy. And that’s OK. Family is what’s most important. They will always be there with open arms, to help and guide.

8- Who inspires me? 

After watching his Nextflix Documentary, I am Not Your Guru. I started listening to Tony Robbins. Whenever I am in doubt, feeling down, need motivation; I go for walks at the park with the girls and I put it him on, his words clear my mind.

9- What do I feel most proud of?

My girls. I think, they have taught me the meaning of life. I view what they learn through a new perspective.

10- What is my current song anthem?

High Hopes by Panic at the Disco. The lyrics speak volumes to me.

24th Annual Critics Choice Awards

Hello,

Fellow Moministas, future Mominitas and Fashion Lovers.

On January 13, 2019 the 24th annual Critics Choice Awards were shown on The CW. The show was hosted by Taye Diggs. Let’s be real. Until now, I watched it on DVR as I was able to get an hour to myself as the girls took their nap. Can I get a #momlife? You know what I am saying. *Insert high five*

The highlights of the night were a tie. Wait no there were TWO!

Best Actress went to BOTH:

  • Glen Close for The Wife

And

  • Lady Gaga for A Star is Born

And for television, for Best Actress in a Movie/Limited Series went to BOTH:

  • Amy Adams for Sharp Objects

And

  • Patricia Arquette for Escape at Dannemora

I thought that was very nice to present TWO awards for a category.

But let’s take a moment and let’s talk and by talk, I mean FASHION. Let’s begin my nominations for Best Dressed for the 24th Annual Critics Choice Awards:

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NICOLE KIDMAN

In Armani Privé

kristen bell

KRISTEN BELL

In Cushnie

chrissy teigen

CHRISSY TEIGEN

In Stuart Weitzman

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CONSTANCE WU

In Rodarte

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REGINA KING

In Michael Kors Collection

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LADY GAGA

In Calvin Klein

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EMILY BLUNT

In Prada

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CHARLIZE THERON

In Givenchy

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POPPY DELEVINGNE

In Oscar de la Renta

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GEMMA CHAN

In Jason Wu

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PATRICIA CLARKSON

In Georges Chakra Couture

rhea seehorn

RHEA SEEHORN

In  Rubin Singer

laura harrier

LAURA HARRIER

In Louis Vuitton

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The trend of the night was:

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Don’t worry about what other kids say.

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Hey Mommas, future Mommas, and soon to be Mommas.

Last week, Rob was picking up Averie from daycare. While I was at work, he called me to let me know something happened. So I panicked a little but kept it cool and asked calmly, “What happened”? He begins to tell me that, when picking up Averie from school he noticed that she looked upset in the playground area. She walked across from him at the water fountain station and began to cry. He asked her what happened?

Backstory

Early that day we got a notification on Class Dojo (If you don’t know, its an app where parents and teachers can communicate) that Averie was the only child to pass the state exam for VPK with a perfect score.

So Rob asked her one more time, “What is wrong Averie?” She now begins to cry and then ugly cry. (You know when the boogers just come out- that’s when you know whatever was bothering really affected her) She begins to tell him while taking deep breaths, “The twins… called me… a DUMB IDIOT!” Begins to cry softly.

As they get into the car, they called me. I could hear Averie weeping quietly and I asked her version of the story. It’s exactly the same. But I wanted to reassure her that I heard it from her mouth not Daddy’s. Deep down inside I was crushed while listening to her tell me the story. How did this just happened? She must’ve asked the twins how they did in their exam. Because that’s who Averie is, she likes to help and loves to learn from others and they crushed it for her. This idea was just running in my head. How do I explain to my child that what others say should not be taken to the heart.

So I calmly tell her, “Averie, sometimes kids will be mean because they do not know how to express themselves. They can be frustrated and the words they choose come out rude. They may not be thinking at that moment. And yes, words can hurt. But remember that in the end of the day, the only people that matter are…. FAMILY. We don’t see you as a dumb idiot. Your are wonderful, beautiful and smart. You are beyond your years. Don’t let her bring you down. Hold your head up! I will see you soon after I get out from work.”

As I told her those words, I tried to hold my own tears and be strong for her. Because this was my first time that I wasn’t there to help her.

When I got home, the first thing I did was to go lay in bed with her. I asked her how she was feeling and she told me better. But in the back of my mind, I knew I had to write her a little note for school as I do everyday. But this time I wanted to tell her how special she truly is to me.

At 6 AM I wrote: Don’t worry about what other kids say. You are smart, beautiful, nice and FABU-LOUS! (Inside joke: she likes to mimic Lamb Lamb from Doc Mcstuffins) Hold your head high. YOU ARE A QUEEN! And ONLY YOU wears the crown! – Love Mom *Excuse my butchering of words, 6 AM and still half asleep*

You are also wondering, does she even read this note? And the answer to that is YES. The teacher sees her reading each note everyday. She has mentioned that is the first time she sees a little girl at her age reading and hugging the note from us. I think it’s a great inspirational note half way through her day.

So with that said, nobody tells you that parenting is easy. It’s a hard job and I wish I could protect her always. But I know she will learn and grow from this experience. With tougher skin.

-The Mominista

Golden Globes 2019

Hello,

Fellow moministas, future mominitas, and fashion lovers. Hope you are all doing well. So, a week a go was the Golden Globes.

Backstory:
Let me tell you a little funny story, my television reminds me when important events like this will air. That Sunday morning, I was in Averie and Arya’s room as usual putting TV on for them. The TV then reminded me about the Golden Globes for 8pm, I hit the DVR to record. At 12:05 am on Sunday going into Monday (details are so important, right) I decided to watch it. The girls are in their room, should be sleeping. But now that I think about it… maybe they weren’t.

Any who, I go to check the DVR. Nervous fear set in me. “Did I really record it? I had to. No worries, remain positive. It’s January. New year, new me.” This is what I said on my mind as I turned on the TV. Haha, jokes on me because guess what wasn’t on the list? THE GOLDEN GLOBES! I thought I hit record, I must’ve pressed, no, thanks. I go and check my backup, the guide. Playstation Vue, let’s me watch things from the beginning after a show has ended. “I should be fine”, I said to myself. That’s when I hit to start and it’s unavailable. Great.

So after a week of looking everywhere, asking friends if they had recorded the show to only come empty handed. I can say, I have finally watched it. And at this moment you may ask, “Ady, why didn’t you just watch the carpet, or highlights from the night to find your fashion?” Well, my fashion enthusiasts, I like to watch it all. I was rooting for Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper for, A Star is Born not to mention the entire cast that was nominated for Gianni Versace, American Crime Story and let’s not forget, Queen! I live for the fashion and awards.

Here are my picks for Best Dressed at the Golden Globes:

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SANDRA OH

In Versace

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EMMY ROSSUM

In Monique Lhuillier

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CATHERINE ZETA-JONES

In Elie Saab

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LADY GAGA

In Valentino

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EMILY BLUNT

In Alexander McQueen

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GEMMA CHAN

In Valentino Haute Couture

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MOLLY SIMS

In Marchesa

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REGINA KING

In Alberta Ferretti

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TAYLOR SWIFT

In Versace

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CAMILLA BELLE

In Jason Wu

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GIULIANA RANCIC

In Gucci

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The trend of the night was:

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Cutest Couple were:

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BRADLEY COOPER & IRINA SHAYK

 

 

 

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The pictures above on this site are the property of their respective owners. I do not hold any copyright in regards to these pictures. These pictures have been collected from different public sources including various websites, considered to be in public domain. If anyone has any objection to display of any picture, image or news, it may be brought to my notice by sending an email (contact) & the disputed media will be removed immediately, after verification of the claim.