Hello, mommas, future mommas, soon to be mommas and if you are new to this page welcome.

Let me reintroduce myself, my name is Adysbel. How do you pronounce it? Ah-dis-bell. You can call me Ady for short. In this post, I thought it would be best to let you get to know me a little better.  I’ve done a lot of reflecting lately, and it may be due to all the constant feed on my Facebook of my former classmates turning 30 this year.

I think that by the age of 30, you should be able to answer some important life questions.

Here are my 10 questions

1- What is one advice I would’ve given myself at age 23?

Take your time. Invest. Don’t spend money, save instead. Move out to your own apartment. Travel the world.

2- In what ways can I be kinder to myself?

Stop trying to be the perfect cleaning mom. I have a problem, I always am cleaning. And I become overwhelmed with a dirty room. I need to relax about having an apartment with kids clean 100% of the time. I can improve by cleaning one room at a time and be satisfied. At least something was done, right?

3-  What is my definition of success?

Write down your goals. Don’t give up. Put in the work. Stay motivated. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you, crossing one completed goal off at a time is success.

4-  What is one thing you are tired of hearing?

I irk, when someone says they are “tired” especially, if they don’t have kids. I used to say this all the time when I was young and until now I understand the TRUE meaning. Saying this to a mother is just plain WRONG. You do not know what tired is until you have kids. Most moms are already sleep deprived at 8  months pregnant. You may ask why, that is because you can barely breathe, let alone sleep in a comfortable position. You better ONLY be “tired” if you are in school, caring for someone or working on achieving your goals. Not just because you are “tired”.

5-  Where do I see myself in 5 years?

I see myself running my own business, working on what I love and having my own schedule to focus more on family.

6-  Do I care what other people think about me?

Let’s be honest, I may never stop caring but I think by my 30’s I will let it stop affecting me.

7-  Should I feel guilty about cutting someone off?

I have learned from my 20’s that not all friendships are worth my time and energy. And that’s OK. Family is what’s most important. They will always be there with open arms, to help and guide.

8- Who inspires me? 

After watching his Nextflix Documentary, I am Not Your Guru. I started listening to Tony Robbins. Whenever I am in doubt, feeling down, need motivation; I go for walks at the park with the girls and I put it him on, his words clear my mind.

9- What do I feel most proud of?

My girls. I think, they have taught me the meaning of life. I view what they learn through a new perspective.

10- What is my current song anthem?

High Hopes by Panic at the Disco. The lyrics speak volumes to me.